The mirror technique
In psychology it has received the name of projection, but taking it to a simpler understanding is like looking in a mirror.
I call it the mirror technique and when you use it it creates a lot of suffering.
Why is that?
You will know if you read this article to the end.
To get into the subject, I’ll tell you a story:
There was once an worry apprentice who went to talk to a great a great sage and asked him: – Why is everyone here so happy except me?
-Because they have learned to see beauty and goodness everywhere,” answered the Master.
– And why do I not see goodness and beauty everywhere,” asked the disciple.
The Master’s answer was: “Because you cannot see outside of you what you do not see inside of you.
Although we find it hard to believe, most of the time we judge and criticize in others the same things we suffer and hate and would like to remove from our lives.
Looking in the mirror
It’s like using a mirror and projecting our image onto other people. Very much in tune with this is the popular saying, “Tell me what you’re bragging about and I’ll tell you what you lack”.
The projection of what we are in the form of judgment, criticism, satire, mockery, sarcasm, irony, etc., to others is like an attempt to cover our wounds, to mask them, to affirm with all our strength that we do not accept ourselves as we are.
This is how we become our own enemies.
We do not forgive ourselves and we constantly drag along a feeling of guilt and inferiority that leaves us helpless and with that horrible feeling that we are always missing something, that we are incomplete.
Deep down we do not recognize that existence always has two faces, which is like the yin and yang of Eastern culture.
Looking in the mirror, life
Life does not move linearly, nor is it logical.
Life is mysterious and contradictory. And wanting to be always good, to please everyone and to receive the approval of others is something fatuous and impossible. It’s like pretending that only the day exists, without the night.
And what you have to understand is that life moves through complements. Without the presence of these complements there can be no integration.
You are neither a good person nor a bad person, you are both at the same time. This is how you integrate.
Only when you accept this fact you stop projecting yourself onto others, you stop criticizing others.
You find everything beautiful and natural, because you understand that it is your own life moving tirelessly that makes you and others constantly move from one complement to another.
Sometimes you’ll be good for others, sometimes you’ll be bad, sometimes you’ll be calm, sometimes you’ll be anxious, sometimes you feel like crying, sometimes laugh, sometimes love, sometimes hate.
And everything will be fine because it is the same life expressing itself in you.
Remember that there is a time for everything under the sun, and that the day may be cloudy or sunny depending on the quality of the glass you put on to see life.